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The Ethics of Love Spells
by Mike Nichols
People will argue, love is a good thing. There can never be too much of it. Therefore, any spell that brings about love must be a GOOD spell. Never mind that the spell puts a straightjacket on another's free will, and then drops it in cement for good measure. That is why I had always assumed love magic to be negative magic. the Witch's Rede, a kind of 'golden rule' in traditional Witchcraft. It states, 'An it harm none, do what thou will.' One uses this rede as a kind of ethical litmus test for a spell. If the spell brings harm to someone -- anyone (including yourself!) -- then don't do it! Unfortunately, this rule contains a loophole big enough to fly a broom through. It's commonly expressed, 'Oh, this won't HARM them; it's really for their own good.' When you hear someone say that, take cover, because something especially nasty is about to happen. version of the Witch's Rede. Mine says that if a spell harms anyone, OR LIMITS THEIR FREEDOM OF THOUGHT OR ACTION IN ANY WAY, then consider it negative, and don't do it. Pretty strict, you say? Perhaps. But there's another law in Witchcraft called the Law of Threefold Return. This says that whatever power you send out, eventually comes back to you three times more powerful. So I take no chances. And love spells, of the typical make-Bobby-love-me type, definitely have an impact on another's free will.
So why are they so common? It's taken me years to make peace with this, but I think I finally understand. The plain truth is that most of us NEED love. Without it, our lives are empty and miserable. After our basic survival needs have been met, we must have affection and companionship for a full life. And if it will not come of its own accord, some of us may be tempted to FORCE it to come. Nothing can be as painful as loving someone who doesn't love you back. Consequently, the most common, garden-variety spell in the world is the love spell.
Is there ever a way to do a love spell and yet stay within the parameters of the Witch's Rede? Possibly. Some teachers have argued that if a spell doesn't attempt to attract a SPECIFIC person into your life, but rather attempts to attract the RIGHT person, whomever that may be, then it is not negative magic. Even so, one should make sure that the spell finds people who are 'right' for each other -- so that neither is harmed, and both are made happy.
Is there ever an excuse for the make-Bobby-love-me type of spell? Without endorsing this viewpoint, I must admit that the most cogent argument in its favor is the following: Whenever you fall in love with someone, you do everything in your power to impress them. You dress nicer, are more attentive, witty, and charming. And at the same time, you unconsciously set in motion some very powerful psychic forces. If you've ever walked into a room where someone has a crush on you, you know what I mean. You can FEEL it. Proponents of this school say that a love spell only takes the forces that are ALREADY there -- MUST be there if you're in love -- and channels them more efficiently.
But the energy would be there just the same, whether or not you use a spell to focus it. I won't attempt to decide this one for you. People must arrive at their own set of ethics through their own considerations. However, I would call to your attention all the cautionary tales in folk magic about love spells gone awry. Also, if a love spell has been employed to join two people who are not naturally compatible, then one must keep pumping energy into the spell. And when one finally tires of this (and one will, because it is hard work!) then the spell will unravel amidst an emotional and psychic hurricane that will make the stormiest divorces seem calm by comparison. Not a pretty picture. It should be noted that many spells that pass themselves off as love spells are, in reality, sex spells. Not that there's anything surprising in that, since our most basic needs usually include sex. But I think we should be clear from the outset what kind of spell it is. And the same ethical standards used for love spells can often be applied to sex spells.
Love spells. Whether to do them or not. If you are a practitioner of magic, I dare say you will one day be faced with the choice. If you haven't yet, it is only a matter of time. And if the answer is yes, then which spells are ethical and which aren't? Then you, and only you, will have to decide whether 'All's fair in love and war', or whether there are other, higher, metaphysical considerations.
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LOVE MAGICK
One of the sought out forms of magic is love magick . Most love magick can be divided into one of three categories:
1* That which is used during courting process
2* That used after a commitment
3* That which applies to family love as a whole.
Please always remember manipulative magick has karmic repurcussions!
PREREQUISITES:
1 WILL The stronger your desire for something to happen, the stronger the power you generate towards your goal.
2 CONCENTRATION You must concentrate wholeheartedly on what you want to reach your goal.
3 PATIENCE There is no magick **POOF** Be patient and wait for magick to manifest.
4 EFFORT Use mundane methods to help your spell along. Don't expect your soulmate to come knocking at your door because you've cast a spell to bring your perfect mate into your life. Get out and meet people!
A spell may call for the use of certain herb or stone. plants and trees. Dont get hung up here. I've yet to see an herb or other ingredient that doesnt have a perfectly acceptable and or more accesible substitution. It is your intent and concentration that gets the magick done not a root or rock. Spell correspondences enhance a spell but the magick ultimately comes down to you.
THE MOST IMPORTANT LOVE SPELL If you are not open to love, no love spell can work. You may want to do this spell as preparation for any other love spell you do. In fact, this spell to make yourself open to love might be the only love spell you will ever need. Look inside yourself: is there something in you that blocks love? For instance, do you feel you don't deserve love? Or perhaps you think that no one could ever love YOU? Or maybe you think you are too fat, or too thin? Maybe you are afraid to ask someone out on a date? Whatever the negative belief, fear or other internal block is, get in touch with it, then use soap and water to "wash it away". Actually put your hands in water and wash them as a way to get rid of your block to love!
A Basic Love Spell
Take three cords or strings of various colors- perhaps pink, red, and white Braid them tightly together while visualizing the qualities of your soulmate.Firmly tie a knot near one end of the braid, thinking of yourself asa magnet drawing this love to you. Continue until you've tied seven knots.Wear or carry the cord with you until you find
your love.
SEXUAL SEDUCTION SPELL From "Pratical Candleburning Rituals"
Raymond Buckland
On the night of the full moon light a red candle while thinking of your intended
Repeat the following three times:
Light the flame,
Bright the fire,
Red is the color of desire
A Fiery Love Spell A charred stick(found or made)
Dried rose petals
Piece of red or parchment paper
Fire or Red Candle & Heatproof container
Using the charred part of the stick as you would a pencil, draw two inter-linked hearts on paper as you visualize yourself enjoying a satisfying relationship. Draw with power.
Hold the rose petals in your projective hand & send fiery (lusty)loving energies into them. Sprinkle the petals over the linked hearts. Do this with as much power and intent as possible.
Fold the papers corners in towards you to the center of the paper as you turn the paper clockwise with the petals inside. You should have a smaller version of your rectangle when you are done. Still visualizing,throw the package into a fire or light it in the flame of a red candle & throw into a heat proof container. As it burns,the power is released.You are done.
You may carry the ashes with you in a small vial or pouch if you desire until you findthat special someone. PINK CANDLE SPELL
From Laurie Cabot's "Candle Magic for Rocky Times"
Hold a pink candle and charge it for future spells by visualizing you and your lover in a happy loving embrace. Put the energy from this vision into the candle. Then say out loud:
"We will always love each other.
May the Goddess and God grant this for the good of all."
When problems arise in your relationship or you need self-confidence, take out the candle on a Friday during a waxing moon. Annoint it with some type of love oil by putting some oil on your index finger, and beginning in the middle of the candle, run your finger to the wick end. Then repeat, rubbing the oil from the middle down to the bottom of the candle. Light the candle and let it burn down completely (in a safe place) and go out.
Attraction Spell
Needed:
A mirror
1 Pink candle (friendship,romance)
1 Red Candle(passion,lust)
In a place that is fire-safe & comfortable for sitting a while, place the mirror with a candle on each side.Light the candles...turn down, or off, any artificial light. Now, sit down in front of the mirror, gaze at your reflection. Sit comfortably, and relaxed. Notice all your good qualities...focus on them...then say aloud how wonderful this feature (eyes, for ex.) are..notice their shape, and color, speak of them aloud...do this with all your best features..smile at yourself :)Tell yourself, how wonderful you are...state all the positive aspects of your personality, (your humor, your willingness to help others, etc) name all the beautiful traits, that make you special...speak of them aloud, and with confidence. Now comes the really hard part...hopefully, with practice, and by doing the above things, this will be easier to do! Say these words or whatever suits you:
"I am beautful (or handsome) on the outside
I am wonderful within
I am special unto myself,
So let the love come in!
Negative thoughts, they vanish
I now toss them out
Negative feelings, be banished,
to let my love shine out!"
Repeat this, at least 5 times per sitting. And do at least, once a day -- you may re use the candles, but please do not blow them out! (Some say that it is an insult, to the air & fire elements) Use a snuffer or wet your fingers, and pinch them out. As you get more used to doing this spell, you may repeat these words, or any words that you chose (spells are great, when made personal...
Also -- to make an attraction charm to wear,simply find a chain with a pendant that suits you, and drape over the mirror while doing your spell...or wear it, so it is in sight, as you do your spell. The charm gains strength, as you continue to work the spell.This spell works! In time you will see a noticable difference in the number of people who approach you.
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